Thursday, April 18, 2013

My journey and why I've learned to love God with all my heart and my neighbor as myself


      For approximately 50 years I have observed people and how they behave. I have watched how they act and react. I have worked with people from all different races, cultures, nationalities or countries. I have talked with people from all over the world about their country, their customs, their politics and religion. I have traveled to numerous parts of the world and have seen how they live, they work, they worship, etc. Over the years I have had many different jobs that have given me the opportunity to meet all these different people.

      While growing up in New Orleans at about the age of 13, I began working by cutting grass and doing lawn care. Later I worked as a house painter and doing odd jobs with my dad. In high school, at East Jefferson, I worked in the cafeteria as a server and helped in the kitchen. After my dad died in 1965, I worked as an apprentice ship fitter and welder at Orleans Material and Equipment Company.
      While attending UNO, I worked part time as a route man and stocker (stocking shelves with products) with Brown's Velvet Dairy Co. I traveled all over New Orleans, Metairie and the West Bank traveling to and from local supermarkets or local grocery stores in both the upper class neighborhoods and the ghettos/projects. During the summer months in between semesters, I also worked as a warehouseman on the river front and part time as a door to door salesman for a local company selling magazines. The salesman's job was selling magazines like Ebony in the mostly black neighborhoods.(That was interesting) I worked as an electrician's apprentice with Tribou Electric Co. and at night as an usher and counter worker at a local  movie theatres--- The Joy on Airline highway, the Robert E. Lee near the lakefront and the Joy's Aereon on Metairie Rd. (that was when ushers escorted you to your seat at the movies and wore uniforms).
     Later when attending Delgado Jr College, I worked with local artist and sculptor Lyn Emery as a helper/laborer at her studio downtown. After graduation from Delgado with a degree in Fine Arts, I worked at Sears as a display man at the Veterans Hwy store in Metairie and the Barrone St. store in downtown New Orleans near Canal St. as a return clerk and customer service employee.
     I joined the Navy in 1969 and while aboard the USS Oriskany I traveled to Hawaii, the Philippines, Japan, and Hong Kong (while it was still under British rule). Also Calif.:San Francisco, San Diego, Oakland, Treasure Island and Los Angeles. As a Yeoman(Clerk) I was assigned to the Captain's staff and also temporary duty on the Admiral's staff. I served as a Chaplain's assistant and as the ship's librarian. Just before I got out of the Navy I had planned on changing rates to cook and applying to do a 6 month tour at the Navy station in the Antarctic. You can save a lot of money. It's just you and the penguins. I also wanted to see Christ's Church New Zealand. When we were in port I drove a Navy van on the base which served as a taxi. The fare was only 25 cents a trip, but all the money I made I was allowed to keep (gas was provided by the Navy). Often times on a Friday or Saturday night when the enlisted men's bars/lounges were full, I made pretty good money at closing time. An eight passenger van can hold 3 times that much when you squeeze 'em in. And the price was usually higher on weekends considering the alternative to being picked by the Military Police for being drunk and disorderly--- if you walked back to the ship. So 75 cents to a dollar was a good deal and no one ever complained. Officers always paid more, they were big tippers. There was no public transit on the base. Of course, there were other sailors driving similar "taxis" and on Friday and Saturday nights there were 3 to 4 vans lined up out side the clubs. Our ship, an aircraft carrier, had 3,500 sailors and other ships i.e. destroyers, submarines,etc. had smaller complements --so business was brisk even if most sailors went on leave in town because they still had to get back to the ship from the main gate. I was married at the time and sent 95% of my Navy salary home to my wife--so I could use the extra money. A sailor's income with the Navy wasn't a lot back then. I also worked extra duty details. For example whenever we pulled into a port (anywhere) someone was assigned duty to watch/guard the aircraft carrier. I have no idea why--like someone was gonna steal the ship.(Although we had 2 Filipinos stow away on the ship. They some how got Navy work clothes (blue jeans shirt and pants) and while we were taking on supplies in PI (Subic Bay Navy Base) they just walked on board. They were discovered when we got to Hawaii, taken off the ship and sent back to the Philippines. We, the ship, had to be quarantined and no one could go ashore until everybody was cleared just in case the stowaways had some virus or disease.They also had to search the entire ship to make sure no one else was hiding somewhere. They spoke English and knew all about America. They were 17 and 18 yrs old. They had black American fathers who apparently were in the Navy and Philippine mothers.The fathers left when the ship left  Anyway, as a guard you had to walk up and down the dock and act like a security guard. All they gave you was a night stick and an arm band to identify you as a guard. Lots of guys didn't want to do it because it was an extra duty assignment usually when you had a leave pass to go ashore/into town. Everybody was suppose to take a turn. The Officer in charge didn't care who did it as long as it got done--so I would stand their duty and they would pay me for taking their place. (when I wasn't driving the van). The USS Oriskany CVA 34 is now a reef off the coast of Florida. When it was originally commissioned it went into service for WWII,but was decommissioned because it  was almost the end of the war. Then it was recommissioned for Korea, later decommissioned,but recommissioned for Viet Nam. The Oriskany received a Presidential citation for an attempt to save some POWs. John McCain was a pilot aboard the Oriskany when he got shot down and captured. The ship was also used in the filming of two movies--one is the "Fighting Lady" The other is "Bridges over Tokorea" PBS also has a special named the sinking of a carrier about the Oriskany.
     After my discharge from the U.S. Navy, I returned to Sears at Oakwood Mall on the West Bank as a display man for about a year and a half then returned to college at Southeastern Univ. in Hammond. During the summer months, I worked as a deck hand on a tug boat (3 level push boat) for King's Marine out of Harvey, La. We worked the Mississippi River, the Inter coastal, the Gulf and as far away as Pascagoula, Ms. We moved barges loaded with grain and other materials up and down the river.
      After transferring from Southeastern to USL in Lafayette , I again went to work for Sears as a display man and  a sign maker. Later while in school during the day Mon-Fri, I worked as a Night Manager/Supervisor of Environmental Quality in the dish return area or some such stupid title. I was a dishwasher at Picadilly Cafeteria at night. I worked as a security guard at night for Hub Security. I worked as a supervisor and warehouseman at night at Magnolia Liquor. I was the only white guy in the entire warehouse located in the seedy part of Lafayette near the railroad tracks. I worked from 6:00 pm until 6:00 am then went to class at 9:00 am. I worked as a night supervisor at Pizza Hut. I was 27 and most of the workers were teenagers 17, 18 , and 19 years old. I worked weekends at the Holiday Inn as a bus boy, dishwasher, room service, short order cook, waiter and cash register clerk. During a break from school for a semester including the summer months to make some more money, I worked as an animal control warden (a dog catcher) for the City of  Lafayette. While attending school I always tried to find a job that paid more money than the previous job and move up the ladder rather than just minimum wage. Marcy and I only had one car so I walked everywhere if it was during the day. She had a job in Opelousas 35 to 45 minutes north of Lafayette and got home around 5:00 PM. So if the job was at night I could use the car or if it was close I just walked to work.
        After graduation from USL with a BA in Secondary Ed ( I couldn't find a teaching job in Lafayette), I went to work for REAMCO an oil field service related business as a yard pipe worker, a tool handler and then later as a night clerk in the office handling overseas accounts.  
         In 1979 I joined the Louisiana State Police. While in the State Police, I served in a number of capacities: a road Trooper in patrol, the Towing and Recovery section as an inspector/investigator, auto theft division, Haz-Mat, in the Transportation and Environmental Safety Section (inspecting 18 wheelers) the Suitability  Section of the Gaming Division as an inspector/investigator/agent. I also served as a guest instructor at the Louisiana State Police Academy at head quarters and as an instructor at numerous other Sheriff and City Police training academies in Law Enforcement across the state. I worked in or traveled to almost all 64 parishes in the state. I was also in school at USL at the time and graduated with a BS degree in Criminal Justice. 
       After retirement, I worked as a safety officer and training officer for a local trucking and towing company with offices in Lafayette,Baton Rouge, Opelousas, and Lake Charles. I was responsible for all the OSHA regulations as well as all state and federal commercial vehicle requirements for commercial trucks and drivers. I was also responsible for training some 80 personnel and employees.
     After leaving there,I went to work for the Southwestern University Police Dept as a Police Officer. It was suppose to be a temporary job, until the new multimillion dollar university museum opened up. I was initially hired to be the new Chief of Security over the museum; however after a year when the grant funding disappeared for that position at the museum and the job was no longer available, I continued as a police officer until I quit.
     I then went to work in 2005 at the new state of the art multimillion dollar Tourist Welcome Center at Butte La Rose off I -10 at MP 115. It was the first to have a movie theatre and animatronics (animated moving and talking swamp animals i.e. raccoon and turtle. As a Tourist Counselor I greeted and spoke with people from all over the world--from Iceland to New Zealand from China to South America and from every other country on the globe.  I also traveled to various parts of the state to attend tourism seminars and various cultural functions concerning the tourism industry. Besides counselor I served as Safety Officer for the Center and worked with the  Louisiana Office of Risk Management. 
     I was there for 4 years until I was offered a position with the newly elected Sheriff of Iberia Parish as the Head Custodian of their Criminal Evidence Dept. The Sheriff was my former Commander with State Police and his Chief Deputy was also a good friend who had retired from State Police. I quit the Welcome Center and went to work in New Iberia, but unfortunately the Sheriff made me a lot of promises he didn't keep. He borrowed 4 1/2 million dollars to operate the Sheriff's Office and apparently had made numerous promises to other people he didn't keep. Before I left, several other people quit also due to differences over promised salary,benefits and operating procedures. Two of them were also retired State Police officers. One was the Chief Deputy and the other the head of the Narcotics Division. It was a hard lesson to learn,but sometimes you really can't go home again. My heart was in the Law Enforcement community,but when God closes one door He always opens another.
       After returning to school (both on line and at the extension campus here in Lafayette) and getting certified in Christian Counseling , I'm now doing premarital counseling at our church for couples who are planning on getting married and I also assist in other areas of counseling. I serve as an usher, an altar worker (which means when people go up to the altar for prayer as an altar worker you go up and pray with them). As a volunteer, I assist at special functions i.e. Harvest Fest (we don't do Halloween--All Hallows Eve) the church has a fair, food, rides and games for all the kids, to give them an alternative to participating in a pagan holiday honoring witches, spirits/ghosts and evil monsters. No costumes are allowed! Once a year the church has a Wild Game Cook Out for men only. About 40 volunteers, guys, who like to cook set up on the church grounds and cook all kinds of food: wild pig, all kinds of fowl---duck, quail pigeon), nutria, alligator, rabbit, squirrel, all kinds of fish--shark, red snapper, trout, etc and deer meat. We have had ostrich, Emu and kangaroo. Of course we have a dessert section too with various pies, cakes etc and all kinds of soda drinks--coke, water, 7-up.etc. I work with the guys who cook the rice--we usually use about 125 lbs of rice. They have a lot of rice dishes. Last year we had 1,200 men attend. The cost is $5.00 a person for all you can eat and they also have a give away with all kinds of prizes. (guns, bows, hunting stuff,grills,etc) I attend a men's group once a month where we discuss scripture,pray and drink coffee at 6:00 am. Marcy and I attend a group called the Ya Ya's (anyone over 50). They get together as a social group, eat out at different places or have get-togethers at church. We attend seminars and telecasts at church on various topics--from improving your marriage to history of Israel (we had a rabbi from Jerusalem come to Lafayette and speak on Israel). I have also worked as a parking valet/attendant at church (helping people to park their cars) and I have served as a men's leader at the men's retreats. Our retreats are held at a place in north Louisiana in the woods. It has both cabin style rooms and hotel style rooms with a large meeting area/hall as well as a lake, a swimming pool, basketball courts and a large eating facility for several hundred men. It starts on Friday at 6:00 PM and ends on Sunday at 1:00 PM. It covers all kinds of topics related to men. The sessions on Saturday start at 8:00 am--prayer is at 6:00 am, breakfast at 7:00 am. Lunch is at 12:00 noon and dinner is at 6:00 PM. We have large group meetings in the assembly hall and then small group discussions in private smaller rooms and prayer during the day. Saturday the sessions go until 9:00 PM. I usually assist in the small groups and act a facilitator. Our church has a Family Fun Day once a year and Marcy and I usually help wrap sandwiches or help set up. It is usually from noon until 5:00 PM.The church provides all kind of games, activities, food; hot dogs hamburgers, drinks for small kids and teenagers. They have rock climbing walls, blow up slides, basketball and a variety of booths and games. We also have what is called Life Groups where couples usually meet at someone's house and have Bible study,snacks and fellowship. Marcy and I have done that for a number of years either as leaders or members. I have also served as a leader on the Intercessory Prayer Team. During the church service a number of people who volunteer go upstairs and pray for all the prayer requests and the church service itself. There is a prayer request box in the lobby of church and people can write down requests for healing, for sick relatives, for jobs, for their marriage or whatever and drop them in the box. Sometimes we have 10 people praying, sometimes 3 or 4 depending on vacations and family things in their lives. We each take a turn praying for one of the requests and just keep going until they are all prayed for. When we pray for the service we pray for the pastor and everyone in the service.
     There are several different teams that take turns on Sunday to pray so no one gets burdened or feels overwhelmed with all the requests.
      Besides travel over seas, I have been to Mexico, Nevada, New Mexico, Missouri,  Alabama, Florida, Texas, California, Arkansas, Mississippi, and Utah. I mention travel in the United States because of the diversity of cultures, heritage, foods, and races that populate the states; Asian ,Native American, Vietnamese, Japanese, Philippine, Hispanic, Italian, French, Irish, British, German, Swedish, Belgian, Australian, Cuban, Spanish, etc. Of course a lot of those same nationalities are here in Louisiana.
    I explain all of this because from all those experiences I have learned a lot about people and their behavior. Look at what has happened in cities here and abroad after football games, baseball games, soccer games with the riots and mob violence. Remember what happened during and after Katrina when mobs of citizens (thugs) robbed, looted and pillaged businesses and private homes.  Remember in Los Angeles when mobs burned down stores, overturned and burned vehicles and mugged and assaulted citizens. When left to their own ideas of justice, right and wrong, and how to treat your neighbor---they will wreck havoc, destroy property, steal, kill, murder and commit all kinds of crimes and violence. The mob attitude just gives them another excuse to do what they want ,rationalize why they do it and feel justified when they do it. When given the chance they will always blame someone else for what they do.
          There is a growing sub culture in this country that believes they deserve what you have, that there is nothing wrong with taking it away from you--if you can't defend yourself that's your problem--not theirs. It isn't their responsibility to help you or anyone else.
They believe the country owes them, that it is their right to receive welfare, to have a new home, a new car, or whatever. They should not be forced to go to school, support a child they made or marry the child's mother. They are not responsible.
        Marriage has become a thing of the past, a piece of paper doesn't make you married --so most live together--until one of them doesn't like it anymore and then they go live with someone else (used to be called shacking up). Look at the day time soap operas, Hollywood stars, athletes, politicians, TV personalities, day time talk shows,etc.---they all have a few things in common--adultery, divorce, fornication, children born out of wed lock, domestic violence, child abuse-- to name a few. Young girls or a woman who slept around used to be called slut or whore--now it is socially accepted and young girls have phone sex clubs and have sex with any number of boys (in Jr high and high school). A young girl who was pregnant and not married was shamed and considered an outcast. Now they proudly announce they are pregnant and not married. Schools provide day care for the babies. Parents have baby showers for the unwed mothers and send out announcements of the birth.
      How have we come so far to come to a point in our history that we are no different than the Roman Empire--a pagan nation, believing in our own intelligence to save us and the ability of money to provide everything we need. Whether it was Hitler, Stalin, Mao, Mussolini or any dictator, they were able to come to power because people (the average guy in the street) were selfish, they were more concerned about what they wanted, what could be done for them, or what they would get--- than if it was right or wrong, if it hurt someone else, took someone else's rights away, their property away or even killed someone else. It was all about-- the "me".
      That's where we are now as a nation.  Moral concepts, God, the Golden Rule, have gone by the way side. Materialism, money, wealth, and what that money can buy is all important. People tell themselves they are good because they don't see themselves as bad. They say they aren't as bad as the drug dealer or the rapist or bank robber, but they will drive drunk, look at pornography, and take stuff home from the office that doesn't belong to them or call in sick to just have a day off because they earned it. They lie, cheat, steal (borrow without returning) anything that doesn't belong to them, disobey traffic signals, run through stop signs,speed 90 MPH in a 50 MPH zone,curse out a fellow motorists, tell x-rated jokes, use prescription drugs like candy, shoplift, etc, but they don't think of themselves as anything except a nice average guy (when they compare themselves to the really bad people).
     In the story of Sodom and Gomorrah in the bible, Lot and his family lived in Sodom. Lot was an elected official, an elder, in the city government, yet he did nothing to prevent what was going on or apparently even speak against how the people were living. He lived in the midst of all the sin,corruption and violence,but did nothing. Even when the angels sent to save him from the pending destruction warned him and tried to get him to leave immediately---he hesitated. According to the bible, Sodom's greatest sin was not the sexual immorality, but the fact that as a people who prospered they did nothing to help their fellow citizens who were in need of food or shelter.They were selfish and only concerned with their own pleasures.
     Americans have lost the capacity to blush because just like the man who works in sewage all day long he can't smell the difference between waste and clean air any more. It all smells bad. Americans have become accustom to living in the sewage and no longer remember what it was like to breathe clean air so they just accept the way things are.
    People, as the bible says "have eyes, but do not see, they have ears, but do not hear" They go through their daily existence like zombies, the walking dead. They would rather watch Monday night football and drink a beer than help a neighbor, than talk to their kids about the Bible or God,than go visit an elderly relative who needs someone to talk to or to bring them food, than do something that makes a difference in another person's life---or do something good that someone will remember when you're dead.
    People are not basically good and if given the opportunity they will choose to serve their own desires and their own wants--rather than obey the laws of God or man. It doesn't make any difference where they live in the world, what language they speak, or what race they are when it comes to being selfish, making excuses for their behavior, or in their ability to do wrong.
    Nighttime seems to be more preferable to daytime when it comes to committing acts of violence, but people are not limited to any special time of the day or night when it comes to
breaking the law. Most people go to night clubs, bars, lounges, etc at night to party and get drunk. Even if you go to a bar in the day most of them have dim lighting or turn the lights down low so it appears to be night. Most career criminals commit house burglaries, break-ins, thefts at night. People prefer the cover of darkness to do their deeds. Why? The same reason they wear masks--so no one will know who they are. When people wear masks--like during Mardi Gras they feel like they can do anything, act crazy, and get away with any kind of behavior. At nighttime, they assume that because it's dark, no one will notice or it will be harder to identify them.
      What is it that makes people slow down at an accident scene to look at the damage, the injured or the dead? Why do they watch when people are trapped in a burning building?
Why do they watch as people leap to their death? What do they enjoy about seeing tragedy, about watching television shows or movies with all the guts and gore and carnage?
The same reason the Romans watched the Gladiators in the coliseum, or the burning and torture of Christians. People watch wrestling on TV to see the contestants get hurt, they watch hockey to see guys get hit and fight, they watch mixed marial arts cage fighting to see the fighters get hurt, they watch boxing to see someone get knocked out, they watch pro football to see the hits and the tackles, they watch the cop shows on tv to see the car crashes and the shoot outs. Why? Because it is in their nature, it is part of them.
      We make choices everyday, but can we choose not to be like our nature? Are we different than the beasts of the jungle, different from the animals that can't deny their nature or must we act according to who we are? Some people who deny God, His word--the Bible, and His son--Jesus would have you believe that you are no different than the monkey you evolved from. And they use that excuse to allow people to do "what comes natural" Paul in Romans 7:15-25 said "I do not understand what I do. For what I want to do, I do not, but what I hate to do." Both before and after this chapter Paul discusses man's nature. He notes that as hard as he tries even when he tries to do good, he still does the wrong that is in him. He says that man has a nature within him that causes him to sin, the sin nature--- his flesh, doesn't allow him to do the right, the good that he wants to do. He states that the only way to be free of this sin nature is through Jesus Christ. Paul says that it is only through our acceptance and complete surrender to Jesus that man is able to do the good that he wants to do and not sin. It is only with Jesus "in me" that I am able to overcome the evil, the sinful desires and corrupt nature that is part of me. There is a constant battle between the sin nature, the flesh, and the spirit of God every day. One man put it this way--- there are 2 dogs that live in you one is good and the other bad---they fight every day to be the dominant dog---- the one that wins the battle is the one that you feed the most. The question is which one do you feed the most? Look at the world around you--- which one is the world feeding? The flesh or the spirit?
    There are 2 things in life that are more important than any other. They are time and people.You can't buy more time or get it back once it's gone. There is never enough time to just stop and enjoy life. Before you know it, time has flown by and all the things you wanted to do or dreamed of doing when you were young have disappeared. You can't stop time. You can't change the past and you can't worry about the future because all your worrying won't affect it. The only thing you can do is to live one day at a time.To truly live each moment in the moment. To accept the trials and tribulations along with the blessings and the good times and carry on. No one said it would be easy.
     The other thing is people. Life is all about people-- that is relationships with people. Your relationship with your parents, your brothers or sisters, your husband or wife, your in-laws, your chlidren, your grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins, your spouse's family, your grand children, your teachers when you were in school or professors in college, your employer and co-workers, etc, etc. It is how you live your life in relation to those around you. How you act or react. No man is an island. You can't have a friend unless you are one. You can't give what you don't have. We will all die one day and the only thing that will truly have mattered in how we lived is the most important relationship--- of you and Jesus. Our relationship with father God and His son Jesus is the one that counts the most. Because if we are living for Him and He is in us then every person we have a relationship with will see The Jesus in us--how we treat people even if they mistreat us, how we honor our parents, love our spouse, raise our children, forgive others, help our neighbor,etc. We will be remembered by the people we have come in contact with in how we treated them, how we related to them, how much of ourselves did we invest in them, or how did we let them know that they mattered to us. Life is too short to spend it making enemies. Occasionally, through no fault of our own that still happens--people perceive a wrong or a hurt when we didn't even know they were effected by something we did or didn't do. But the right thing to do, if we find out about it, is to apologize to them--even though we didn't know about the hurt at the time. By asking forgiveness of them, we no longer live under the burden or in bondage to whatever it was and we are freed and released from any hold it may have on us. It is all about people. The world doesn't see it that way. They see it as "it is all about me", "what's in it for me", "what do they owe me", "how can I get more" or something similar. The greatest commandment " to love God with all you heart, all your strength and all your mind" The second is "to love your neighbor as your self." If the world did that--we wouldn't have any of the problems we have created for ourselves.

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